The title of this book caught my eye in Target, and then the blurb reminded me a lot of “Jane the Virgen,” which I love. I ended up buying it without even reading the first few pages, which is something that I almost never do, but I really wanted something cute and light and this seemed perfect.
In YHMAH, Jasmine, a native New Yorker who is Puerto Rican/Filipino and a soap opera star, is offered the chance to star in an American remake of a telenovela, called “Carmen in Charge.” Due to a last minute in injury, Ashton, a native Puerto Rican telenovela star, is brought in to play the male lead on the show. There are sparks on-screen and off between the couple, but their rising fame complicates everything. It’s written in third person and alternates point of view between Jasmine and Aston.
Daria’s writing style is a little choppier and to-the-point than I would prefer, but the writing is pretty decent overall. The characters were fun and engaging, and for the first few chapters, I thought this was just going to be exactly what I expected it to be – light, cute, contemporary romance. Bonus that it had a fair amount of Spanish thrown in – pretty much everything is translated in-text, which you may find helpful if you don’t speak any Spanish or a little annoying, if you do understand Spanish. But Daria tried to insert the translations as smoothly as possible, which significantly minimizes the intrusiveness of it.
Based on the first few chapters, I didn’t think I would have much to say about this book, but as I read on, I found several things that really impressed me. The first was that Daria actually wrote out several scenes from the show, with the main characters “in character” as the people they were playing. This may sound really weird, but it gave me a whole new perspective on how actors approach their craft; seeing the ways different motivations and feelings were specifically attributed both to actions and how they interpreted the script through a written scene gave me a lot more appreciation for the complexities of playing a character well. I really loved that; I’ve read (romance) novels about actors before, but this was a completely different take. However, it did take away from time spent with the two main characters as themselves, which made the timeline of the novel feel shorter than it actually was – I didn’t mind this at all, but it’s worth noting.
Secondly, Daria did a great job with bringing in a diversity of characters. There was a very minor genderqueer character who was wearing a “they/them” pin included in their initial description, along with their hair color and outfit. This was a very nice, extremely low-key way to signal that a singular they was about to be in use – I’ve gotten confused before when they/them pronouns are used with no introduction in writing, even though I figure it out very quickly in conversations. It was treated as a perfectly normal, almost mundane part of the character description – I thought it worked better than most other approaches I’ve seen for genderqueer side characters, where it generally ends up being a crash course in they/them pronouns or I end up confused until I figure out it’s a singular they in use.
Obviously, Latinx identity and culture, specifically Puerto Rican culture, was an important component of the book. I was most excited, however, when Daria specifically pointed out that Lucy, a secondary character, had deep roots in the USA because she was from an Mexican-American Arizona community that had existed for generations. I’ve been struggling to find media or literature centered around Latinx experiences outside of the immigrant/first or second generation ones, and I very much appreciated the acknowledgement in this book. (and if you know of any books that would fit the bill, please let me know in the comments!)
Finally, and perhaps my absolute favorite thing about this book, let’s talk about the sex scenes in this book. YHMAH was amazingly sex-positive in a way that books, even romance novels, usually aren’t – not kinky, but just framing normal sex things in a way that made them feel positive and sexy. First of all, Jasmine asks for lube in every sexual encounter, which I have never seen in a romance novel before, and it’s given a positive framing – she likes it, so it makes the sex better. Then, in their first sexual encounter, Ashton asks to not have penetrative sex, to which Jasmine says of course. But later, when she’s thinking about it, it’s not a big deal or a concern or some kind of weird insight into his psyche; she merely thinks he may have an STD he’s not ready to disclose yet or he wasn’t comfortable with moving that fast, and figures they’ll have a conversation about it later. I loved that. It was so accepting of normal sexual things that are nonetheless often stigmatized. Ashton also gets excited when he sees her vibrators, in a oooh those are sexy way. My absolutely favorite line came during an argument about trust and honesty, when Jasmine says, “I also think that someone who is allowing you to enter their body deserves a modicum of trust and respect as well.”
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a book that normalized these aspects of sex before, especially not in a “this is sexy and romantic” framing. For me, it added to the escapism of romances – these everyday sex acts, which we tend to stigmatize, were imbued with that romance magic and treated as fun and sexy, instead of major hurdles the couple needs to overcome. And that line of Jasmine’s I quoted above – it directly strikes at the heart of why sex, or at least any form of penetrative sex, feels so intimate, whether it’s a causal, no-strings-attached encounter, or between married couple celebrating their fiftieth anniversary. And that the act is tied here to respect and trust, not love or romantic feelings, that it’s the trust and the privilege of having someone grant you access to them that needs to be respected and reciprocated, rather than tying it to a specific emotional state, is something I think Daria captured so well in that quote.
All of this happened without ever losing the charming romantic touch that I very much wanted out of this book. I adored it, and if you like contemporary romances, you should definitely give this one a read. Daria’s not a flowery, flowy writer, so if you absolutely need that in your romance, then alas, this may not been the book for you – but maybe give it a chance anyways.